When the deployed person returns home, however, there is an added stress, because the family unit has been used to operating without that person, and the person suddenly reappears, usually emotionally spent and expects to fit right back in as if he or she had never been absent. This creates an entirely new type of stress as the family attempts to readjust to that person being in the family again. .

             Counseling can often help the families work through the readjustment period. .

             PROFESSIONAL LIFE.

             Several decades ago couples married, the wife stayed home to clean house and raise children while the husband went off to work each day(Toll, 2003). The women's movement changed that when women began to enter the workforce in record numbers, which caused stress, but they still were expected to come home from their "little" job in time to cook and clean. Today, however, women and men are sharing the professional limelight and there are thousands of female doctors, lawyers, veterinarians and other professionals that are sharing a marriage. .

             The stress of a professional's life cannot be minimized(Toll, 2003). They put in many hours a week and even when they are off duty they are often expected to utilize that time to catch up on paperwork, attend educational seminars or travel to places that will benefit their careers. When a husband and wife both have professions it can create stress in the marriage simply because of the logistics. Deciding who will have primary responsibility for the children can create a stressful situation as can the lack of time together as each partner works to build a career. .

             "Greater stress and pressure at work coupled with competitive lifestyles are leading to marriages breaking up. Lawyers, doctors and accountants - some of the highest earners - are among the hardest hit by the trend, according to a Birmingham based law firm(Toll, 2003)." .

             INTERFAITH MARRIAGE.

             There was a time when few people would consider marrying outside of their family's religious faith.